... continued from last week
Sixthly, as one grows spiritually, her horizon widens to include others in her life. Every Christian needs one another’s support and encouragement. So, interaction with fellow brethren is very important and necessary for our spiritual growth too.
As we grow to be more Christ-like each day, our love for the brethren should deepen too. How should we treat each other? “Our love for each other is without hypocrisy and we are kindly affectionate towards one another, with brotherly love; and in honor, giving preference to one another.” (Romans 12:9,13). We pray for each other, forgive and forbear one another (Ephesians 4:32; Colossians 3:13). We look out not only for own interests, but for the interests of others too (Philippians 2:4).
A mature Christians puts into practice the true meaning of love described in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 in her relationships with others by treating people the way God treats her - with love, grace, mercy, compassion, courtesy and with no prejudice. By doing so, she exudes the sweet aroma and fragrance of our Lord Jesus to those around her. (2 Corinthians 3:15; Philippians 2:1-4). Her warm and friendly attitude towards others also helps to create a warmer and more welcoming atmosphere in the church especially for visitors.
As an ambassador of Christ, she attempts to interact more with people by using her voice to include and bless those around her (2 Corinthians 5:20). She knows that words have power (Proverbs 18:21) so it is important that she uses them to share and encourage others (Ephesians 4:29). She does more than just saying “Hello” by introducing herself and asking a friendly question and listening to their responses. In these simple interactions, she makes them feel welcomed and help to open doors for their spiritual growth too. Besides helping one another to grow in Christian faithfulness, we are keeping those who are saved in a saved condition too (2 Peter 3:18).
It is also important to surround oneself with a network of supportive brethren who can encourage and inspire one to greater spiritual heights and service for the Lord.
Having a strong supportive system provides the emotional backing and help needed in “low” or difficult moments. Through open and sincere sharing, bonds are cemented too. “Rejoice with those who rejoice and weep with those who weep.” (Romans 12:13-15)
In order for a relationship to deepen, one may need to take a risk to share and ask for help when needed and vice versa. Superficial relationships will often leave one alone and isolated and this is not healthy for one’s spiritual growth and the risk of falling away is very high. Be kind and more approachable and give a friendly smile whenever you meet people. A smile can do wonders to someone down in the valley that day!
Portrait of a Christ-like Christian.
“Instead of hoarding, Share.”
“Instead of envying, Congratulate.”
“Instead of criticising, Encourage.”
“Instead of getting even, Forgive.”
“Instead of hating, Love.”
“Instead of being rude, Show Grace.”
“Instead of fighting back, Stay Meek and Gentle.”
“Instead of building walls, Construct Bridges.”
Ultimately her goal is to live a life of goodness and integrity so that when people look at her, they may see our Lord’s love shining through her.” (Philippians 2:15, Matthew 5:16)
Lastly, to grow spiritually, one needs to have a healthy body and a positive mindset. Our body is the “temple of God and the Spirit of God dwells in us.” (1 Corinthians 3:16). It is created to fulfill God’s purpose - to evangelise and do good works (Romans 12:1). Thus, we should be actively involved in our Lord’s business of soul-saving and living a life-style of ongoing dedication and service, not a one-time offering. Remember that “faith without words is dead” (James 2:14-26).
Serving God gives us a sense of belonging and responsibility and this helps to strengthen our faith when we embrace spiritual growth and learning at the same time. We must learn to be patient (Isaiah 30:28) and have the desire to serve when ready and called upon.
Some are not aware that our physical health condition can affect our spiritual health indirectly too. Stress, lack of sleep and rest and a hectic lifestyle are “faith-killers” too. Since we are created to fulfill God’s purpose, we have the responsibility to take good care of our body both physically and mentally. Cultivating a balanced life-style (balanced diet, sufficient REST, exercise, leisure activity) is therefore very important and necessary. Never be preoccupied yourself so much with worldly concerns that you have no time for God!
Adopting a cheerful and positive mindset is important too to lead a happier and more fulfilling life. “A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a broken spirit saps a person strength.” (Proverbs 17:22) Do not stress over things beyond your control but instead pray and give your fears and worries to the only ONE who is completely ABLE (1 Peter 5:7; Matthew 6:33-34; Psalm 55:22).
Self-care isn’t selfish; it is necessary! You can only give your best to others when you have first nourished your own soul. “You cannot pour from an empty cup” nor “can you draw water from an empty well.” Learn to say “NO” sometimes to prevent a physical or mental “burnout”.
A beautiful life does not just happen; it is built daily by prayer, humility, love and self-care. May that beautiful spiritual life be yours always!
What are some reasons that may hinder our spiritual growth in Christ?
Failure to recognize and to clearly define exactly what one wants in life.
There is a lack of focus and interest in spiritual things or knowledge. Hebrews 12:1-3 Christ wants us to focus on our goals - salvation and Heaven. We are to run the Christian race in such a way that we may obtain it. This requires discipline and self-control to fight against worldly temptations and the wiles of Satan (1 Corinthians 9:24-27).
Complacency / Lukewarmness (Revelation 3:14-22)
The Laodicean church was rebuked for their lukewarmness and Jesus regards them as wretched, miserable, poor, blind and naked (v.17). Lukewarmness destroys evangelism and benevolent efforts and also enthusiastic worship. The clear punishment is Jesus will vomit them out from His mouth if they will not repent.
Procrastination with or without cause.
Such an attitude is usually backed up with a formidable array of alibis and excuses. God expects us to learn, grow and be fruitful lest He cuts us off (John 15:1-8). Our Lord wants us to be diligent to make our calling or election sure by obeying His commandments and dedicating ourselves to His service. In this way we’ll never stumble (2 Peter 1:5-11).
Anxiety and Stress over the unknown.
“Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.” (Matthew 6:34) This verse offers a powerful message of peace and trust in God, encouraging us to focus on the present and release our anxieties about the future. It is also a direct command from Jesus to live and find peace in His presence. Also, we have no control over the future. God is in charge and we can trust Him to guide us and to provide for our needs. “... casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.” (1 Peter 5:7)
Concluding Remarks
Dear sisters, you have done well so far and survived every challenge. Keep it up and continue to put your growing experience to more positive and purposeful use for the Lord and His church. Deep within, you know what works! Keep moving forward and make new progress towards spiritual maturity and fulfillment in the Lord. Be an independent Christian who is in control of your life and destiny (that is, focused and clear-headed); able to make wise decisions and is not easily affected by internal or external circumstances.
“And behold, I am coming quickly and My REWARD is with Me, to give to everyone according to his work.” (Revelation 22:12)
“For the Son of Man is going to come in His Father’s glory with His angels and then He will REWARD each person according to what he has done.”
Strive to be in that final and eternal squad and whose name is written in the Book of Life (Revelation 20:15). On that day of judgment, you will be distinguished between one who serves God and one who does not serve God (Malachi 3:16-18). The unrighteous will be going to eternal punishment and this terrifying thought should strike a chord in your heart and motivate you to do better spiritually. It should also fire you up to want to go out and save souls to prevent them from going to the place you don’t want to go (Hell!) but helping them to get to a place that you’re trying to get to (Heaven).
God is not going to reward you for your success you had on Earth but by your works. He will be delighted when you do His works, study His word, attend church services, pray for one another and tell people the good news of the gospel. However, it is not your success or “superficial” belief you are being judged by but your faithfulness. When we are faithful, God will reward us. Isn’t that amazing we should think about this as we go on our daily walk through life will Him?
Therefore, make a conscious and concerted effort to grow and better yourself spiritually, patterned after Christ. “Be watchful, persevere and hold fast to what you have, that no one may take your crown.” (Revelation 3:2, 10,11) “Examine yourselves as to whether you are in the faith. Prove yourselves….unless indeed you are disqualified.” (2 Corinthians 13:5)
True Christian growth is achieved one step at a time, one word at a time and one good deed at a time. So do not be easily discouraged or impatient with yourself or others. As long as you are striving diligently towards your spiritual goal and maturity, our Lord will bless and keep you. Only then can you live a truly happy and effective Christian life for Christ and savour the joy and peace He promised in His Word (Philippians 4:9). May you grow in so many wonderful ways!
“But you beloved, building yourselves up on your most holy faith, praying in the Holy Spirit, keep yourselves in the love of God, looking for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ unto eternal life.” (Jude 20-21)
Questions for Reflection
How does our attitude affect our faith and spiritual growth in the Lord?
What are some practical and sincere ways we can show our love and concern for the sisters in our congregation?
Find out more about these Christian women who made good role models for us in NT:
Who they are?
What they did that is worth emulating?
Priscilla (Romans 16:3-5; Acts 18:2-3,24-26)
Phoebe (Romans 16:1-2)
Dorcas (Acts 9:36-42)
Mary & Martha (Luke 10:38-42; John 11:1-6)
Lydia (Acts 16:11-15,40)
Mary Magdalene, Joanna & Susanna (Luke 8:2-3)
Eunice & Lois (2 Timothy 1:5)
Anna ( Luke 2:36-38)