I frequently find myself getting irritated by the little things in life—when someone spends an extra minute at the ATM, when a car cuts me off on the road, when my wife asks me a question out of concern, even though the answer seems obvious. After each incident, whether moments or days later, I find myself questioning if my reaction was appropriate or necessary. The answer is always 'no’, and I always end up regretting it. I am overly self-centered, often consumed by my own thoughts, feelings, and concerns, to the extent that I sometimes neglect or overlook the needs and perspectives of those around me.
In a world that often values quick results and instant gratification, being patient and controlling anger might seem counterintuitive. But these qualities are important in biblical teachings and are key for personal growth, better relationships, and spiritual development.
James 1:19-20 - So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath; for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God.
James advises us to cultivate a demeanour of patience and thoughtful reflection. By being swift to hear, slow to speak, and slow to wrath, we align ourselves with godly principles and create an environment where righteousness can thrive. This approach not only benefits our relationships with others but also helps us live out our faith in a manner that honours God.
Ecclesiastes 7:9 - Do not hasten in your spirit to be angry, For anger rests in the bosom of fools.
The passage describes quick anger as a sign of foolishness. Letting anger take control can result in poor decisions and behaviour. When anger is not managed effectively, it can impair our judgment and lead to actions that are neither helpful nor respectful. By steering clear of impulsive anger, we adopt a more patient and reflective approach to life, which enables us to address conflicts and challenges with greater wisdom and calm (Proverbs 15:1-2). Patience allows us to respond in ways that are more aligned with good judgment and consideration for others.
Ephesians 4:26-27 - “Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil.
Feelings of anger are natural, but it is crucial to handle them without letting them lead to harmful actions. Unresolved anger can open the door to further problems and negative influences. Therefore, we must address conflicts promptly to prevent lingering bitterness and improve our relationships.
At this stage you might wonder, why does God give humans the capacity for anger? Is there a purpose behind it? As a natural emotion, anger can play a constructive role when responding to injustice or sin. For example, Jesus demonstrated righteous anger when He drove out the merchants from the temple (Matthew 21:12-13), showing that anger can be a valid reaction to wrongdoing. Anger itself is not inherently sinful; it is part of the emotional range God has designed for us.
Although God is shown to have righteous anger against sin and injustice, He also exemplifies patience and mercy. In Exodus 32:1-14, while Moses was on Mount Sinai, the Israelites made a golden calf to worship, prompting God's anger. He considered destroying them but relented after Moses interceded, appealing to His promises to the patriarchs. This story highlights God's patience and mercy, showing His willingness to forgive and maintain His covenant despite serious disobedience. Likewise, when we feel anger or frustration, we should pause and reflect before reacting. Consider how patience and mercy can guide our response, addressing the issue thoughtfully rather than impulsively, and reflecting the patience and forgiveness shown by God in Exodus 32.
In conclusion, experiencing irritation and anger in daily life is natural, but how we manage these emotions is crucial. Practising patience and thoughtful reflection allows us to respond in ways that foster positive relationships and personal growth. Instead of letting anger lead to regrettable actions, we should address conflicts promptly and thoughtfully. Anger can be a valid response when it aligns with justice and is handled properly, reflecting God’s own justice and mercy. By aiming to embody these qualities, we create an environment conducive to both personal and spiritual growth.
I hope you find encouragement and gain as much insight from God's word as I have. Let us embrace love and patience in our daily lives, to foster a more compassionate and understanding environment around us!
Ask Yourself:
What does James say people need to do when facing trials?
What does the apostle Paul say we should not do when we are angry?
How can recognising and managing our own anger help us better reflect God's patience and mercy in our relationships and daily interactions?
Suggested Answers:
Swift to hear, slow to speak, and slow to wrath.
Sin.
You may discuss this with the writer or any of the Bible class teachers.